Celebrating While Single Part 2 (The value of Friendship)

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So something that I value most in my life right now is friendships that have weathered the test of time. People always say that friendships are another extention of you, this happens to be true. These people have been so supportive of me even when I did not deserve their friendship. There were times that we did not talk for months at a time and some that we talk everyday and still keep life going with all the other tasks that come into play.

I have some amazing friends that I would love to introduce to you later on as the series continues.

Growing up I was socially awkward. I couldn’t keep friends even if I tried. I would hold on to them tight when I had one and would suffocate them until they didn’t want to be my friend anymore (meaning I wanted to keep them around me and only me, if they had other friends I would get jealous and would find ways that they could not hang with them or would make them feel guilty for having other friends). As I got older I found out that I was able to keep friends as long as I was able to portray myself to be someone that I was not. So I lived a double life from the time I was 11-18 (this I will talk about later). When I began to be in my 20’s and I was getting serious about my walk with Christ I was really searching for friendships that were really sound. I searched and reached out to people. There was one friend that I had that really helped me get back in to communication with my parents and prayed with me. We don’t speak now but I know if I called her that she would be right there and we would pick up right were we left off.

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Having good solid friendships that really challenge you, encourage you and help you grow in your Faith and thinking is so important. I think of the passage scripture in Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”  this is the very instance of what friendship means to me. I also firmly believe the friendships we have also gives us a precurser or if you will say reflection into how you will be in your marriage. Not saying that this will be excatly how you will be but the relationships and how you handle certian things such as conflict will be pretty much the same way when things hit the fan in your marriage.

So here are some of the things that I have learned so far

  1. It’s okay to be who you are – This has to be a big one for me. All throughout growing up I have tried so hard to fit in and to feel like a belonged somewhere. it took me till my 31 years of life to figure out that it is okay to be me. I cry at the drop of a hat. I can be a huge ball of emotion and my friends still love and accept me for who I am and what I bring into their lives. I appreciate them so much for allowing me to be me and to invade their personal bubble!
  2. It’s okay to make mistakes – one of my friends on their birthday had told me that the space that they give is a non judgemental zone. That they new that although they did not know me that they give room for growth. BOY! Did I and don’t I still do need grow in certain areas of my life. This is not to say that you can be careless with the people that God places in your life. People are human and they make mistakes. Give people time and space to be who they are and to learn from the mistakes that have transpired. This will lead into the next step.Friendship3
  3. Be willing to forgive – I know for some this can be really hard. I for one do not have this problem because I cannot hold on to grudges for a long period of time. But for others it can be a problem of letting go of the hurt that was done to them. I always tell people – forgiveness is a choice. It takes time for the wounds to heal. It’s okay to be hurt and to still go through the process of healing from that hurt. But choosing to forgive will help along with releasing whatever power that was meant to hurt you go.

These ladies pictured are the ones that I do ministry with me, they pray for me. They check up on me if they havent heard from me in awhile (I am working on the disappearing act that I do on occastion due to my busy schedule nowadays). We purposefully set up time to update each other to see what is going on in our lives. They also give me the hard truth even if I don’t want to hear it. To me that is pure love. Some of them I’ve known and have built a friendship with them for a long time and they have withered my storm of being moody and flaky when I was going through my fight with anxiety and depression. Some I have recently met and we have come to click on a spiritual level that we know we have been connected truly for a God given purpose.

Whatever it maybe for you. Value the friends that are in your life and see what the friends in your life have to offer you. Is it for the bettering of you? Or better yet, what do you add to your friends lives?

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until next time,

Evie

 

Celebrating While Single

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(Things I’ve learned while being single in my 20’s)

 

I know some may look at the title and be like, “Say what now? What is there to celebrate when you are single and wanting to get all boo’d up with a potential bae?” Well coming from the fact that I have been single since forever (since 2012) and I recently celebrated my 31st Birthday; I know how the look of being single can feel lonely and you don’t know how to handle life. One of the basic things that I love about being single is that I can pretty much have all the time that I want to myself if need be. My last relationship really had me by my phone 24/7. If I didn’t answer my phone my ex-boyfriend thought I was ignoring him. I couldn’t handle the pressure and I really didn’t like the fact he was so controlling. After ending things with him I had a hard talk with myself and God. Did I want to end up in another relationship like the last few I’d been in or did I want to be single and learn how to handle life and better get to know who I am and how God made me. I chose the latter and after awhile I’m so glad I did!

First things first that I tell anyone that I speak to, being single is not a curse but a “gift” (1 Corinthians 7:7). You are alone with just you and the Lord and no one can come between the bond that you and the Lord have for one another unless God presents you the mate that he has for you. One thing is for sure, God wants to have your heart before anyone gets that chance. One of the things I found out about myself is that I love to share what God has showed me to other women and girls. I find so much fulfillment in doing God’s work and also found out that this is my calling. So what are somethings that you like to do? For example do you like to write? Do you like to draw? How about traveling around the world? Of course it would totally be Instagram worthy to have your bae with you and have all the pics and “Relationship Goals” and have people envy by saying that you all are the cutest couple out there. I’m not gonna lie, I would love that reality too But you can also have a group of friends join in on the festivities or be adventurous and go alone. I’ve gone to my favorite restaurants alone before, yeah it does get weird at first if you’ve never done it before but you do get use it and it can be fun! One of my favorite things to do is go on drives alone by myself with music playing, I get all dressed up and I don’t normally have any destination in mind. A lot of the times it is just me and God on the journey. This is also where I can sort out all of my thoughts as well, my Faithful car! So figure it out before you get that special one in your life! It will definitely be to late when your married because that wonderful free time will be gone!

Another thing I realized is that I fully did not know myself, I quickly jumped from relationship to relationship while in my early 20’s. Mainly because most of my friends weren’t single and I did not want to be that “lame friend” so to speak that didn’t have a man in her life. I sought out any man that would give me attention, sad right? I was wanting to be loved so bad that I would seek it out anywhere. I even got caught up in a relationship where I went out with a best friends ex boyfriend from High School. Stupid thing was I caught this guy several times cheating on my friend and when it came to me I birthday1knew it would be a possibility and didn’t care. I wanted to be wanted and feel wanted that I let the thought of being emotionally scarred out the window. He can stayed the night and left his wallet at my apartment. I of course looked at what was inside. There was two letters from a girl that he was also fooling around with one letter wanted to know why they were so distant. This was the time when we were just newly involved with each other. The other one was her saying that she was so happy that they were getting back together. That was around the time that we were not doing so great. I know now that I didn’t also like the feeling of being alone. Since my relationship with my family was strained and I would take any man that would give me the attention that felt good to me at the time. Often times I got the attention at the price of what they wanted at the end then they would disappear and I was left with just me again. So in the end, getting to know yourself and the Value that God puts on the inside of you at the time you are in your mothers womb is so important. You really don’t want to mess up a good thing when Mr. Right rolls around and you are still an emotional mess because you never knew that value you brought into this world and also never took the time to seek out God in your time of singleness.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. “(Psalm 139:13 NIV).

God has great plans for your life and he definitely wants to spend as much time with you now because when you meet your future husband he knows the next shift in your life is going to change.

(I’m making this part one of my Celebrating Single series. there is so much I want to share with you!)

until next time,

 

Evie

Take Care

 

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One of the things that I am working on this year and have been for the past few years is taking better care of myself. This has been an ongoing battle for myself that I have been taking seriously toward the end of 2017. Personal note, I always feel guilty for doing something for me. I feel selfish, greedy, anything that does not resemble doing something for someone else I think a long time about. I love doing everything for everyone else. I get so much fulfillment but overtime it does wear on me and I step back and get into retreat mode where my family and friends don’t hear from me for months at a time. I get so drained because the people that I would often give out to will take but not give back (in a spiritual sense).

Story time: A few months ago I had a coworker that explained that she needed to go shopping for somethings for her husbands Christmas party but didn’t want to go shopping by herself. I being the person that I am wanted to help so I went with her, knowing full well that I needed to get somethings for myself but wont do any shopping while I’m helping someone else. We went to my favorite store (Torrid) and I saw some clothes that I wanted to get for myself. My coworker didn’t find what she wanted there so we went to another store and she eventually did found what she needed and I dropped her off. I reluctantly went back to my favorite clothing store and found some clothes I wanted and went to the cash register. I panicked because I was really not wanting to spend so much money but I NEEDED CLOTHES BAD! The lady across from me told me “You need this.” and I did. Poor lady probably saw that my clothes needed help and so did I!

As I am trying to work out the kinks in my life as in trying to get used to making me a priority I find that I am able to be of better service to other people. It’s sad that it’s taken me over 30 years to find this out. But it’s true. My Spiritual life as well and my Mental, Physical self needs to be in tip top shape before I ever consider being of help to someone else.

I want to use my form to help other people who are struggling with their health as well as their spiritual life with God. One thing that I do know, The more you spend time with the lord, your health will get better overtime. I also want to share recipes and other neat tips that I’ve been learning in my Journey to better health and encourage my beautiful ladies that YOU can do it too! We all can with God’s help!

 

Until next time,

 

Evie

My Favorite Thing To Do Is…

dinner  People who really know me soon find out that I like to —–no, I mean LOVE to cook! If we get to this stage in our Friendship then you know its REAL! Catering my friends and family with food is part of my love language (acts of service) and there is something about being around people and food that just brings a closeness and a different dynamic to the scene. Not only do I enjoy sitting back and looking at my friends and family part take in what I’ve made for them and hear them say they loved what I made but I enjoy the gathering of people and the closeness I see people become as they share a meal.  In some ways I feel like food is a spiritual event that connects people together. You gather together and you talk you enjoy the food and you become closer knitted together. Yes, I believe God designed food to be a type of ministry. A ministry I think I can enjoy 🙂

One of the things that Jesus did was break bread with his disciples. He actually cooked for them as well as stated in this scripture in John 21:12 (ESV) “Jesus said to them, “Come and have breakfast.” Now none of the disciples dared ask him, “Who are you?” They knew it was the Lord. 13 Jesus came and took the bread and gave it to them, and so with the fish. ” His mother Mary wanted him to turn water into wine at the Marriage of Cana. I’m pretty sure there had to have been food there too, OKAY!

Just the other day I met a new friend at a meeting that my Sister in Love held at Starbucks. My sis actually wanted me to meet this person for the longest time but I wasn’t having it. I really was not in a place to were I could have been a good friend, my schedule was everything that consists with work and no social life. If I did have a life it was with my bed (HAHAHA, but it’s for real though). Well this person I met along with her amazing friend (who I am also friends with!) show up and they start talking. Somehow I get on a topic of how I like Korean Dramas and they did too! This lady begins to ask if we wanted anything to drink and serves us! Speed up to the next day and I’m at her house and we are both fixing food and talking and fellow-shipping with the rest of her family! We got closer that day. Besides some people you just click with.

With my posts from time to time I want to share some recipes that I love to prepare for my family and friends, whether it be a simple spaghetti dish or macaroni and cheese. It is something that is made with love and my family and friends enjoy it and sometimes comes with a request! I will also share some of my families recipes that everyone tea timeloves and raves over. I really want to encourage you whenever you can to spend more time with your family and friends.  Life tends to get so busy and we often times forget to slow down and have a meal with the people we care most about. We depend to much on social media to catch up with people instead of either calling and saying; “Hey, what are you doing next week? Wanna go for lunch? Dinner?” That’s what my Bosom friend did and I loved every bit of our Tea time! We don’t see each other all the time but we most definitely make the time for it!

Another good passage of scripture is in Acts 2:42 (NIV) “They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer.” This is definitely around the time when the Holy Spirit had come to the upper room and Peter had boldness, he prophesied and got 300 people saved.  What else can you do besides get saved? Fellowship with FOOD and prayer! Its seriously a powerful thing! My parents decided a month or so ago to start adapting family day because we just need to have more family time. We have realized that we get to comfortable in the fact that maybe we live so close and yet take comfort in knowing that maybe we can get together “someday” until its almost Thanksgiving or another holiday that we spend time together. When I heard that we were going to have these start happening I got so excited! It was an answered prayer of mine that I had requested to God about this time last year. 

So this is going to be my challenge to those who want to take it. Don’t worry, there is no grade for this. One day out of this upcoming month call someone that you haven’t spoken to in awhile and share your home and make a meal for them. Catch up on their life and ask them if they need any prayer. You will be surprised at how much that one phone call and that one meal or even tea time can make a huge difference to that person and even yourself.

“And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” Hebrews 10:24-25 (ESV)

 

 

Until next time,

 

Evie

Why I’m saying No to New Years Resolutions

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What a day to be alive and well! I know most people are preparing to act on their New Years Resolutions. I’m normally all for them but this is the reason why I am not doing a New Years Resolution. They are basically goals, and everyone should have a goal set in place for themselves at anytime of the year. Most of everyone as well tends to have a burn out a few months after the New Years because life happens (It does!). People give up and wait till the New Year comes around again to make the same goals all over again. Why the roller coaster?

So what is it that you are trying to accomplish this year? Get closer to God, lose weight, travel more or even start a new business?

  1. Think about why you want to do any of these things. If they are from a genuine place; for example: because I want to know God’s plan for my life, or I want to lose weight because of a health risk, or I want to see more of the world and broaden my horizon’s then that’s the first step. Evaluation is key to why you are wanting to make a positive change.
  2. Write your goals down. I find it much much easier to write your goals down and plan when are going to focus on them. Especially if you are like me and still work a full time job and also trying to get your blogging business off the ground
  3. Share your goals with others. Not just anyone either. People who are going to help keep you accountable in how your are progressing in achieving the goals that you are trying to maintain. I also find it easy to be around people who are goal driven. So if its family, friends or even a Pastor. Share, Share, share!
  4. Do your research. Do you know what it will take to get to where you need to be? how long it will take for you to achieve this goal of yours. As they say, knowledge is power and the more you know the closer you will be at achieving it!
  5. Ask for help. If you need advise or some help to get yourself off the ground by all means ask away. We are meant to do life alone so don’t think you have to do this all by yourself.

So even though this is the New Year and EVERYONE seems to be on a kick to write down their resolutions, I’m not doing one. No pressure for the people who are doing them but for me it seems like every time I do one I don’t follow through. So if I want to create a new goal I will do it and not wait till the New Year to do it. I hope this helps someone in a rut about starting something new and scary. My verse that I’m leaning on is Philippians 4:13 (NKJV) “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. You can too!

 

 

Until Next Time,

 

Evie

How To Encourage Yourself When You Are Not Dating

So many times when I tell people I do not date they give me either a blank stare like they have never heard that statement before or they tell me “How are you going to know who and what type of guy you like if you are not dating anyone?” The disapproving looks and stares are common and annoying at the same time. There have been times that I wanted to bend this rule of mine because the pressure to fit in with the crowd is REAL. Then I remember all the other times I dated, gave my heart to a guy, how the feeling of that ending, how I felt like my heart was being separated from the person I was with and how awful that felt. I would keep trucking on with the thought that I would rather just wait for the Man that God has for me. He knows my hearts desire and he will honor his word.

Getting into the mindset of “I will wait” and “I will not settle” is not an easy task. As I stated in previous posts I only have one other single close friend. We live over an hour apart from each other and we are both VERY busy people. We set a date to see each other and its usually me staying the night and we are both tired from our busy work days. These visits though are a handful out of the year, when we do meet we encourage each other to not give in to the status quo of needing to date around.

In my personal opinion, If you are doing God’s will, God will present you to that man you are meant to be with.

As non traditional as not dating sounds there have been plenty of people who have never dated before or either quit trying to date around and found the person that they were meant to be with.

Here is a Scripture that I lean on while I am in the preparing season of waiting; Psalms 37:4 (ESV) “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” This might be a very common scripture but its a promise that the Lord gives us and he never goes back on his word. That’s what I love most about the Jesus. His words do not return void.

Another good Scripture is Isaiah 26:3 (NIV), “You will keep in perfect peace whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you”. When I was in my early 20’s I had this timeline that I would be married at a certain time, I would have kids at a certain time. When all that failed and so did my last relationship I would wonder if I would ever get married or even have a guy that would be remotely interested in me. Keeping our hearts, and minds on Christ will help erase all doubt and worry about your future. It’s in the hands of the Lord! The more that we put our trust in the Lord Jesus the more he will reveal the most wonderful plans that he has for our lives and the more we will fall in love with him.

One last scripture is Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct  your paths.” The worst thing we can do is try to make a plan on our own and not consult with God about it. I’ve done this so many times and it has backfired tenfold. When we make a plan on our own, we are saying that we do not trust God in what he has planned for us. I know this all to well. I would get stressed out and worry as well as lose sleep. Our relationship status is in the hands of our loving savior. He knows what is best for us and we will direct us into the next season of our life whatever that may be. Dating is for the birds 😉

Until next time,

Evie

The Loneliness of Times

So everyone battles the loneliness blues. I know I do from time to time. When I see all my friends coupled up I often feel like I’m the odd ball because I don’t have a man beside me or I don’t have a man to talk about like the rest of them. I can’t talk about how he bought me flowers or how he got on my nerves the other day, ha! I have always been very private with my past relationships so I don’t see how that would change now. These feelings for wanting share my time with a special someone come and go. I do see it as somewhat normal. I don’t long for it all the time but when I do I write or pray about it and put it back in the hands of Jesus and leave it at that.

Companionship is normal. Everyone wants to share their life with someone at some point in there life.

There are times where I want nothing more than to just come home and tell my future husband what all happened in my work day. But that day for me hasn’t arrived yet. I don’t know when that is going to come. That’s okay with me. What troubles me most is knowing that there are tons of women who are like me and they feel that have to try and find a man because they don’t want to brace that lonely time. They are confused with what to do with their alone time. I was like that too. It ended in many heartbreaks for me. So here is what I do now.

  1. Write: I know you may have heard this before, “Write a letter to your future husband”. But I’m telling you, it does help. You can put all your feelings down on paper and leave it there. When you and your future guy meet you can show him all the letters you wrote him. I think my guy will see every side of me, hahahaha! He’s going to have his hands full with me! Be real with your feelings. I feel most women hide how they feel to their own selves. Let it out. You will feel so much better afterward.
  2. Hang with Friends: In Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) As iron sharpens iron,
     so one person sharpens another. Having friendships that challenge your way of thinking and overall good company is always good to have. Being single comes with challenges staying abstinent, and not jumping into the next mans arms that comes your way. Having Godly friendships that keep you in check while you are in that “waiting” period is a must. I’m so glad and blessed to have those types of people in my life.
  3. Steer clear of temptation:  Temptation is going to happen. If you say that it hasn’t or that it’s not going to happen you are lying to yourself, BIG TIME! This is where my friends and family keep me in check as well as staying in the word of God. Having your mind renewed daily in what the word has to say about sexual purity and what the word says about marriage is. I also look at my friends and family that have waited to get married and the stories that they told me. They always tell me that the “wait is worth it”. So what are your triggers that make you slip? Is it the wrong type of movies, wrong type of books, music. Anything that will trigger your bad thought pattern into slipping into the same lonely habits remove them and find someone that will help you stay accountable to that.
  4. Prayer: Prayer really should be on the top of this list. Prayer is your one complete access to the throne room of God. Although he knows all and sees all he still wants to have a relationship with us and he wants us to tell him when we are lonely. If your loneliness is consistent then you really should evaluate your walk life with Jesus. The more you are in constant communication with the Lord the easier it is to get over the feeling of loneliness. Those feelings will come but with Jesus you are able to know that you are never alone and “HE will never leave you or forsake you;” Hebrews 13:5.
  5. Volunteer: doing something for the greater good of others is great! Sometimes I go feed the homeless. Volunteering gives you a since of well-being and purpose and just makes you feel good, it does for me! You can do this anywhere, your home church, homeless shelter or even grab a few friends to come up with something that can better your local community.

I really could go on for a long time. Leave me somethings in the comments of some other ideas that could help!

Until next time,

Evie

What Brings You Joy?

Well I guess it’s about time for me to write something right? Ha! Well I have to say that in order for me to write something, I have got to have something on my mind and organize it in my head first before I put it out for the whole world to see. I guess it is like that for most writers/bloggers. In this case I do!

Lately, I have been stressing out a lot. I’m a non traditional student and I work full time. Like most people who are in my position, you have bills and student loan debt. You try to keep yourself a float with the job that you have and make the most of what life throws at you. Well within the last month, I quit one job and started another. The schedule is less than ideal but it’s a job and I’m grateful. Trusting in God in Every Area of my life is something that I am literally walking through. I don’t know if you have noticed in your life, when you don’t learn your lesson the first time, you are often faced with the same hurtle until you have successfully conquered it. That is me. I’m noticing the hurtle and I am trusting that God will walk me through this time of trusting him and what he has planned for my life.

So anyways the stress of finances is often my burden. I love to go out with my friends and family. especially seeing my wonderful nieces and nephews and spoil them rotten. I love to give “just because” gifts because it just makes me feel good. Since this season in my life is for a brief moment, I am trying to find the simple things that I can do to just bring joy in my life without spending so much cash ;). While I thought of this subject, it struck a cord in me, what do others do that brings them joy? I know there are a lot of us that go through many hardships. It can be from break ups, death in the family, divorce or even loss of a job. Doing something that brings you joy (productively) can have amazing effects in your overall health. I was listening to a podcast one day, this lady was saying that when she feels overwhelmed she would take out a list that has 10+ things that bring her joy. She would do one of those things and she would feel peace and joy. I thought about that it for a moment and it made so much sense. There are so many things in my life that bring me joy. Talking on the phone, making myself a couple of tea, working out, doing my dishes, giving myself a facial, spending time with my family, Pinterest (need I say more!).

Times are tough for people who battle with anxiety and depression these days. With many people committing suicide because they feel like all hope is lost  I felt the need to write this post. There is so much more to live for. Our lives are made for other people, not for ourselves. Doing something for someone else brings me so much joy that I forget that I was even sad.

Also if you do not know Jesus, I want you to know that he loves you and has loved you first before anyone else has. Ask him into your heart and ask him what your purpose on earth is. You will be amazed what you will find out.

 

Share with me what brings joy in your life,

 

until next time,

 

Evie

What to do, What to do!

So…. I’m single. And I’m 29. Most people in the state I live in would think that at this rate I might not ever get married. I honestly gave that choice up when I was 24. Don’t get me wrong, I want to get married and have children but it’s not in my timing. I started my first year of college in 2011 and I broke up with my boyfriend. I knew that my timeline (every woman has a time line, or most) was way off by 4 years at that point. The guys that I have chosen where not the best at all. At this point in my life I took a hard look at myself and realized that either I go into a complete circle with my life and what my idea of a good man and marriage will keep getting distorted or I take some time out and be alone and get to know myself. I took the latter.  So for almost 6 years I have really gotten a chance to get to know myself and have gotten to strengthen my relationship with God and my family. It hasn’t been the easy road but it has been the road that needed to get traveled for myself.

What I have realized is that reaching out to women and young girls is a calling of mine. My first year of college I lived in the dorms, A very good and not so good experience of mine. I met some really awesome people in which I’m still friends with today. But I realized the need to know who you are as a woman. Many young girls and women my age have yet to find out because they haven’t taken the time out to get to know themselves. So they feel the need to dive into relationship after relationship to find out what type of man is beneficial for them. I don’t feel see why many women do this, I mean I do. They don’t like the feeling of being “alone”. They are use to having a guy with them all the time, the list goes on. One thing that really bothers me is that many people say in order to find your likes and dislikes is to “date” around. I seriously beg to differ with this. You can find this out by getting to know yourself. Of course you will have your friends and family with you so you wont really be alone. But if you are like me, when everyone in your family is married and majority of your friends are married you have a lot more time on your hands. I normally spend this time writing in my journal, listening to podcasts, working out and praying and reading my bible. My close single friend lives a little more than an hour away. We keep in touch when we can but we both live busy lives so this is what I do to keep my time filled up. But more importantly, being comfortable in your own skin and being comfortable in your own silence is good as well.

I have struggled with trying to relate to people because I tend to act older than I am. I am old fashioned in thinking. I want a courtship, not dating. I want to save myself for marriage, I don’t want to be alone with the guy inside my apartment. I would rather hang out in groups if at all possible or “double date”, if that can’t always happen, always in public. These are the things that really set me apart from many of my friends, even some Christian because I know how I am. I am not a virgin, and I know what my triggers are when it comes to slipping up. I want to honor God in my future relationship, and one thing I do know is that my future husband will feel the same way. If he is not, then he is not the one.

Never bend your values and standards to be with a man. If you have to bend then he does not respect you.

I will explain more as this Blog persists 🙂

until next time,

Evie

Goodness!

I feel like I slack a lot when it comes to blogging. I have had so much going on that my days and nights have all been mixed into one. The biggest reason was I had to focus on one class that took most of my time! I had an amazing tutor who became a good friend of mine and helped me out so much!!! I appreciate the willfulness and her patience with me as I cried and made excuses as to why college just wasn’t for me anymore. Because of her and all the other people who encouraged me and Jesus I passed my class and I have free time! I can do what I want to do which is be with my family and friends. Read, write (Blog) and focus on being healthy.

What I want to focus mainly on is my passion to see women know their worth. Their are so many girls and ladies out there that have so much potential and they don’t know it. I love to help women of all ages find out what they are truly made of. That to finding that they have a genuine relationship with God. Realize how much God loves them and wants them to reach for the stars and have the best in life. Know that they don’t need to be searching for love from just any man that shows then attention, that man will find her and God will reveal that person to them in His timing not ours.

I have had the opportunity to team up with some amazing people one being my good friend and another lady who I hope to get to know better as this year goes on. This is my passion in life as well as my calling. There is so much more to this but I don’t know all the pieces to the puzzle yet and that’s O.K. I’ve come to know that God doesn’t give all the pieces of the puzzle sometimes, he wants us to rely on him and have a continual relationship with him. Over time he will show us what steps to take next. So this is what I will do.

One Puzzle piece at a time.

Until next time,

Evie